I remember a conversation I had with a friend many years ago, when we were very little. My friend is adopted, and she was explaining to me about her adoption, because some kids in her school did not understand.
She told me about how her adoptive parents are her real parents, and her biological parents were her biological parents. I don’t know why this memory has stayed with me for so many years. Perhaps it was because it struck me back then, like it still does now, that people would not believe that her parents were her real parents. My friend has a relationship with her birthparents, and even went to visit her birth mother recently, but her true parents are her “adoptive” parents.
We’ve heard the mantra “adoption is the loving option,” but do we strive to make it be the common opinion?
Pro-lifers believe in adoption, but unfortunately sometimes adopted children still face misconceptions or even stigmas surrounded adoption. In our modern age, where we pride ourselves on valuing and accepting everyone, I find this rather disappointing. According to newsobserver.com, and psychologytoday.com, stigmas surrounding adoptions are still very prevalent. Newsobserver.com even goes so far as to say that single mothers are more likely to admit that they aborted their baby than that they put the baby up for adoption.
For some reason, people are not well educated about adoption, and still say things like, “she abandoned her baby.” What? That is hurtful and wrong for both the mother and the child. The mother isn’t abandoning her child, she is actually showing incredible love and bravery to give her child to parents who are ready to love the child, and are in a better situation to care for the child. And an adopted child’s biological parents are not necessarily drug addicts or destitute either.