I know that when we read about adoption, we usually read that it is a gift, that it was a choice, an act of love, we often hear the so beautiful “I wasn’t expected, I was selected“. But adoption is much more than that.
The most touching case of adoption I’ve ever known, thankfully, I can call it in my family, one of my mother‘s first cousins. She was adopted and raised with tender love, she knew since she was little that she had been adopted, she was curious, of course, and when she was older and a mature woman, had the opportunity to meet her biological mother. She wanted to thank her mother for giving her the opportunity of a better life; she knew that what her mother did was probably one of the toughest decisions that she had to make. She understood and was thankful.
She grew up to be a committed psychologist and social worker. Her life is, and has always been “service“; but in my opinion, the most admirable choice she’s made was to repeat the love pattern she lived: a couple of years ago she adopted the cutest little boy you‘ll ever hope to meet.
When you ask her why she did it, she humbly admits that she wanted to give back all that unconditional love she received. She felt ready to be a mother, more importantly to be his mother. She tells you that she didn’t choose him, she was chosen. She knew it the moment she carried the baby, she felt this indefinable warmth and “ something about him“. She just knew it.
I don’t dare to say that biological mothers can affirm the same or not. But I find it exceptionally wonderful that a mother can say that. Life must be cherished, and it is a great responsibility to be mother; to be in charge of someone‘s education. A mother is in charged to bring out the goodness in someone else and making him capable of love.
She adopted love way before she became a mother, and that was precisely what made her capable of adopting a son. We must all adopt love, live by it, that’s the only way we‘ll live in a society where every life is cherished and every life is lived.
Adopt love. That’s the option. The rest will come.