By Ally Warmoth - ProLife Youth Blogger
Since 1973, 57,781,990 abortions have occurred in America alone. It is estimated that 1 in 3 women will have an abortion. The Elliot Institute conducted a study on hundreds of post-abortive women and came back with these results:
• 90% suffer damage in their self-esteem
• 50% begin or increase alcohol and drugs
• 60% report suicidal thoughts
• 28% actually attempt suicide
• 20% suffer full blown post traumatic stress disorder
• 50% report some symptoms of PTSD
• 52% felt pressured by others to have the abortion.
With these startling facts in mind, it should be very clear to us that women who have had abortions are indeed suffering from them. Even with these facts available, over 2,500 abortions are still being performed daily in the United States. It is hard to believe that abortion is still being accepted as a viable solution to the problems women face. Fortunately, there is a widespread effort being put forth to make the truth about abortion known to everyone. The testimonies of post-abortive women are essential to this effort. Women like Aubrey (shown above) know the horrors abortion causes, and they are brave enough to speak out about their experiences. Please read her testimony, and place yourself in her shoes.
I was ‘barely 16’ my parents said. They said they knew I wouldn't go through with an adoption and that I wouldn't be keeping that “f***king mistake.” They had convinced everyone to tell me that because I was a minor I had no choice at all. It wasn't even a week after I told them I was pregnant when I had the abortion. Nobody helped me. Nobody told me I had options. They just said this is what you have to do; what you will do.
I was definitely lied to and coerced to get the abortion. I never feel as if I chose that for myself. I really feel that I had no option what so ever and nobody was there to help. I was not offered any alternatives at Planned Parenthood. (Shocker). Right after the abortion and even during I told them to stop. I screamed and I cried and I said that I never wanted this to happen! They didn't stop, and then it was over.
I've never been the same since that day. All I've felt is emptiness, grief, depression and anxiety. I would never ever even think about agreeing with these 'prochoice' liberals that abortion is liberating or empowering. The only thing abortion does is kill, hurt, and destroy life after life after life. Nothing good ever comes out of abortion. It leaves 1 dead; 1 wounded and dead inside. There are some choices you can reverse and others you can't. Abortion being one of them...
I can't really remember when I started to feel even slightly better or heal from it. I honestly can't say even now that I'm healing. I am just taking things day by day, honoring the life of my child who was quickly taken away from me. The small circle of friends that I have are understanding of what happened. My mom has been ok with it, but since she and my father were the ones who pushed me into it I just leave them out of that part of my life. I have not been in contact with my baby's father for over a year now.
To a woman in a crisis pregnancy situation I would say that there are options for you; options you won't have to spend the rest of your life regretting. God loves you and your baby, and I am sharing my story to make you realize that abortion is only a temporary solution with a lifetime of pain.
To post-abortive mothers I offer the comfort of not feeling alone, so they know that someone understands exactly what they are going through, because I have been there. And it is like hell on earth. I personally do not believe that there are any words someone can say to make you feel better or even take the pain away slightly. Just being there for that person is the best possible thing you can do. Because nobody was there for me after the abortion when I needed them.
Abortion is never a good solution in any situation. It only makes things worse. Abortion is murder and you will always remember the child you didn't have. Abortion hurts. People need to know abortion isn't just a once and done, then you forget about it kind of thing. You live with it every day of your life and you will never forget it. Yes, you can be healed but that doesn't mean you forget it.
Everyone needs to realize that abortion doesn't help anything, it only destroys lives. It kills a human being. They shouldn't view it as a political issue or a woman's choice issue. It needs to be a human rights issue. They need to open their eyes and see that it is not just a woman’s body, and it is not their choice to take away their baby’s life. That is playing God and taking the very life he created. It's a human being, not a velociraptor!
The best thing our society can do for women who have had abortions is to try and understand. Don’t judge us, don’t attack or call us murderers. Place yourself in our shoes. Most women regret abortion, and when we are attacked by people who don’t try to understand, things are only made worse. I've been called baby killer and a murderer. A stupid b***h and everything else you can think of. But unless you have read my story you don't know that my abortion was not my choice. Abortion is wrong. Its murder, and I'll never agree with it. It makes me sick. I would never even think about getting an abortion again.